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Bikurgurl and I had a conversation about Grace and Space on the comments section of my post, Permission to Be. We chatted about the idea of giving ourselves ‘Space and Grace”. Bikurgurl then took our conversation to the next level and fashioned a wonderful post that examines that idea of ‘Space and Grace‘ through the lens of her experience:
These days, it’s all about grace and space.
Source: Space and GraceWe try to remind each other daily — if we don’t give ourselves grace and space, how can we expect anyone else to do so? If we demand it of ourselves, we’ll demand others give us this too…we’ll be sending out the messages to the world we wish to receive. Circling back to Melinda’s post — giving yourself Permission to Be – it’s a a beautiful thing! I call it Grace and Space — you call it what works for you!
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Are you giving yourself #grace and #space? @bikurgurl
Lovely concept and a vital thing I believe you two have have come up with 🙂
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Thank you 🙂 What springs to mind when you hear ‘give yourself grace and space’?
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For it is by grace you have been saved through faith, not by works so that no man can boast, it is the gift of God through eternal life Ephesians 2:8-9. I think that’s right.
Also, being okay with making mistakes and allowing yourself not to be perfect.
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I’m going to quote you on that! Your quote is awesome. You talk about grace from God and grace from within which is perfect for my next post! Is there anything else you would like to say about either source of grace?
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I think since God showed us such grace, in giving us faith in his son Jesus, we learn to give ourselves grace. ” But God demonstrates his love for us in this, while we were still sinners, Christ died for us Romans 5:8.
Grace is an undeserved gift, its mercy. We should demonstrate mercy when dealing with people and be full of grace towards them. We need to go easy on ourselves too, remembering we are to made special and uniquely talented from anyone else on earth, despite our flaws and imperfections. This means we show kindness and forgiveness to others and especially ourselves. God forgave us, so we can forgive ourselves knowing that although we can’t be perfect beings, we need do only the best we can at the time. God is perfect, we cannot be so revel in the flaws which make our daily lives real and difficult, learn and grow, knowing you never have to be as perfect as you believe. Your best at any given time is always good enough. Perfection is not required, it’s a hopeless pursuit. The space to give yourself grace means being content with what you are able.
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Grace I relate with a lot of Lutheran teachings when I was young, so for me that really comes to mind 🙂
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Love the concept…..Grace and Space! I would….wouldn’t I? Hugs!
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Would you like to contribute a quote or poem on the subject of giving one’s self grace and space? I’m doing a follow on post with more perspectives gathered from the wonderful members of the blogosphere. 🙂
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Not given it much thought…so pre-occupied at the moment. 😉 Hugs!
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There’s no rush. In fact it would be nice to come back to this with a fresh angle in a while 🙂
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Thank you so much for the reblog! Your initial post gave me the inspiration to write a bit about my thoughts…especially after my surgeries last year, getting older, having young men I’m raising…my perspective continues to shift to giving myself, and others, Space and Grace!
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I want to write more too. I actually want to crowd source a post–find out what ‘giving yourself grace and space’ means to other bloggers. I think that could be a meaning conversation.
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Agreed! Thanks for getting it going further than an inspirational conversation and post, to a larger community of writers and readers 🙂
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You’re welcome 🙂 I’m going to run with it until it runs out of gas. It’s just too important not to!
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Agreed! I’ve made it priority this season with my writing classes and my own children {who are also my homeschool students!}…we’re all too hard on ourselves. Looking forward to writing more 🙂
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Yes me too! I am so glad this is a priority. It is for me too. I have let negative self-talk control my thoughts for far too long. No more!
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It’s a process — from time to time, I still find myself feeling negative when I’m not planning, working towards my goals, over-committed, or overwhelmed. Coming back to center and readjusting — it’s a process that needs to be part of the routine. I find that Sundays going to church are a great re-set {I take my notebook and take notes on sermons – it feels so much more engaging when I do}, practice yoga, stop everything to engage with my children….Starting the day off with quiet time {when I don’t stay up writing or blogging!} also helps me keep my center. Looking forward to our collaboration 🙂
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Oh wow those are great ideas. I take walks, two a day usually. When the negativity gets too bad I slap in some headphones, queue up a good audio book and get lost in story for awhile. When I stop walking, I find the negativity has gone away. 🙂 I am looking forward to collaborating too!
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Love it!!
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Me too 🙂
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We have lift-off! (The pigeons, I mean. I released a few.)
What a beautiful post and tribute. 🙂
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Thank you!
Hey I just had an idea to crowd source some perspectives on grace and space, would you be interested in that?
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Oooh. Tell me more! 😀
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What springs to mind when you hear ‘give yourself grace and space’?
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The courage to accept the fact that I’m not perfect (don’t tell the twenty year-old me!), the will to respect and allow myself space (and time, and pace) to grow, to make mistakes.
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Can I quote you on that? I recently learned how to make quotes tweetable!
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Oh I’d be honored! Go ahead! 😀 (Trust you to figure out things like that, Lady of Code.)
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Actually I borrowed the technique from another site. It’s purely a manual process. It allows folks to click to tweet the exact text shown 🙂 You can see how i did it if you look at the page code for this webpage 🙂
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Ah, yes. I’ll have to try it out one of these days. 🙂
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🙂 It really works! 🙂
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Me too! I’m still navigating my ignorance of things — totally learning and growing and loving the process 🙂
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Ohh same here! ❤️
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Glad to know I’m not the only one 😉 I feel my brain growing with each new iteration of learning — so thankful to be building a writing community from the comfort of my own laptop 😉
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Me too! 🙂 Imagine what we can learn from each other! What feats of communal awesomeness we can achieve!
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Agreed! I am thrilled this resonates with you – and so many other writers! Self acceptance leads to acceptance of others. You get what you give, but in this case, I feel like our synergy is giving so much more — many thanks, my friend!
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Thank you 🙂 It is okay if I quote your 3 lines post? It dovetails so perfectly with a quote Mandibelle 16 gave me that I built an interview kind of post talking about grace coming from without and then being harnessed by us.
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Absolutely! I’m honored to be dovetailed to Mandibelle16 😉
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I’m so glad. I wanted to get your message out to my readers because you had such wonderful things to say and they compliment each other. It’ll go up at midnight EST tonight. 🙂
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No worries — but I look forward to seeing it 🙂
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I think you’ll like how it turned out. It’s interview style 🙂
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I can totally relate! Part of the process is learning which new piece of information to take in and which one to discard. I used to take it all in, ruminate, and drive myself crazy. 😀
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I’m totally quoting you on that! It’s perfect for an upcoming piece. 🙂
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Information overload – I try to steer clear of that, but get sucked in … Analysis Paralysis usually ensues 😉 {It’s one of the topics of an upcoming post!}
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Oh really? sounds like a great post! 🙂 I like that ‘analysis paralysis’. It sounds like a disease of the mind!
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Ha Ha! I’ll get it going again…
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🙂 I hope you did! I will have to drop by and check!
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🙂
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#LOVE — start the movement and I’m happy to reblog and help ❤
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awesome! I’m going to ask around and see what folks think and also put up a post tomorrow asking what folks think. Should be interesting!
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#Perfection in an #ImperfectWorld !
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yes! 🙂
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I used our Twitter conversation yesterday morning in the lead….I just linked back to your blog. Thank you for your beautiful writing and inspiration {and kind comments of support}!! ❤
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I saw that and am delighted that our chats led you that way! Thank YOU, I love your words on my Twitter page! ❤
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yay! Synergy! It is synergy right?
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Definitely! To build something wonderful!
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is it okay if I truncate your quote a bit for twitter?
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Yes, of course! Next time I’ll keep it below 140 characters 😉
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Is this okay: Courage 2 accept that I’m not perfect, the will to respect & allow myself space to grow, make mistakes @anniescribes bit.ly/1XIf4lK
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Perfect! (Um, pun so intended!)
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Yay! I just need to do the layout. I have the link coded so one click tweets that message 🙂
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You are so very welcome — I love your heartfelt writing. Your vulnerability and poignant poetry is moving 🙂
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I second that motion! 🙂
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Aw thank you!
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You’re welcome 🙂
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I am humbled by your kind words, B. Thank you for reading mine. ☺️
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🙂
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My pleasure!
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🙂
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I missed out on that conversation! 😦
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