What People Are Saying About…
Earlier this week, in Labels: The Self Killer, Kewan and Bikurgurl illustrated the dangers of labels and how we need to choose the ones we accept. Now it’s time to hear your views on labels, which ones you accept and which you reject and how you deal with them. Let the conversation begin!
“I have had negative labels attached to me all my life. I am just now at 57 years of age learning to cast them off and finally set myself free. It is, in part through my writing that I do this.”
— Carol from WritersDream9
“I try to break labels (except my labels: daughter, sister, friend and girlfriend and blogger!). I can say I am somehow blessed to be around good people who have accepted me. I was never ‘out’. And I see that as a blessing, indeed.❤
On the other hand, I think […] a negative label… was given to me by my rich aunt. We are labelled poor. Well.. we are indeed poor. And that is always felt during family gatherings. We are the servers. We don’t seat in table where the ‘rich’ aunts and uncles eat. We, my family, is an outcast. But by the grace of God, that label will be changing soon.❤”
— Rosema from Rosemawrites
I too have a huge list of labels pasted upon me, don’t give a hoot to most, keep a few because I like them stuck on me.
— Sharmishtha Basu from Agnishatdal The Ezine
“I simply press the delete button for labels that do not apply to me. Let’s give ourselves grace and space!”
— Kewan from Kewrites
“I think we choose what labels fit us and which don’t. Even if we don’t like the label, we can choose to be defined by them or say, no this isn’t me, I don’t like it. This is what I am, not this. It may not stop others from labeling but at least in your heart and among friends, you truly know who you are and are not.
For instance, since I suffer from depression no as a result severe fatigue, [one] label I never like is disabled. Though in some documents, to get money etc to live on etc. I may need to be defined this way, in life I never think of myself this way, and I hope others don’t too. I just say sometimes, it is harder for me to do things and It takes me a bit longer in some situations. But I’m no worse of than anyone else, I have learned so much having to try harder. What we have trouble with or cannot do, does not define us.”
— Amanda from Mandibelle16
In the Twitterverse, the conversation changed from labels to vulnerability which brings up an important point. If we accept labels that other people apply to us it makes us vulnerable to their influence. That’s not the kind of vulnerability that we spoke with Rosema about in Grace Gets Personal: Acceptance through Vulnerability.
So Bikurgurl jumped into the conversation in twitter to set the record straight:
#Vulnerability is not a #weakness, it’s being #Mindfully #open to #possibilities